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Mar 31, 2023

Today we’re tackling the question of how to share kink resources with vanilla people you encounter in your dating travels, strategies for protecting your energy as you do so, and how to hold out hope that you're going to convert seemingly vanilla folks into new kinksters.

How To Turn Your Vanilla Partner Into Your Dom...


Mar 24, 2023

Safe Slut joined me to tell me all about her dating life as an HSV+ queen, shared her thoughts on disclosure, and gave us some insight into her first date rituals. Spoiler alert: an HSV diagnosis isn't going to end your sex life! In fact... it might make it even better.

How Herpes Became A Sexual Boogeyman (Slate)


Mar 17, 2023

A sub wants to know how to bring forward feminine energy and suppress the masculine during aftercare. Lina’s response? Gender is fake, privilege is real, and pegging your Dom is a submissive act. How did we get there? Guess you’ll have to listen.

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Mar 10, 2023

Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, we’re taking a walking tour through the heart of leather culture in the 1970’s - San Francisco’s South of Market neighborhood (home of Folsom Street) and the many bars, clubs, and bathhouses that made it famous.

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Mar 3, 2023

Today’s episode is all about feeling your feelings. One sub asks whether it’s possible to introduce kink to her partner in a non-sexual context, while another wants to know how to react in a subby way to conflict with their Dom. 

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