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Apr 28, 2023

A new sub wants to know how to manage jealousy when you're monogamous and your partner isn't. Aka, where is your place in the kink community if not at the so-called "cool kid's table?" Well, it's right here next to me.

Get instructions for submitting YOUR STORY to our community-sourced May Deep Dive here.

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Apr 21, 2023

Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world! 

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Apr 14, 2023

A sub wants to know how to communicate their changing needs in a longterm relationship, and Lina equips them with proactive, active, and reactive tools for sharing feedback and keeping the D/s container safe (but also spicy).

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Apr 7, 2023

A tour through the literary origins of masochism, as well as some modern mythbusting for the masochistically inclined.

Get my full interview with Leigh Cowart, author of Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain On Purpose, here.

Join our Deep Dive interview with Luna Matatas all about Diversity in Kink on 4/11 at...